They’re ridiculously cute together, and I can’t possibly be mad that a friend fell for my crush just because I liked her once.
We’re all still friends, and their adorable love brings me real, actual joy.
Also, it’s essential to acknowledge that regardless if the potential new relationship ends up being a hookup or a full-on dating thing, it’s going to be weird, because there’s no getting around you both know each other.
Be prepared to let the ex-hookup fantasy fade away in order to maintain the friendship. Depending on who you are and where you live, hooking up with a friend’s ex may not be that big of a deal.
“This is not uncommon within queer, kinky, consensually non-monogamous circles—and in some ways is built into the nature of dating within these communities," says Dr.
Markie Twist, licensed family therapist and certified sexuality educator.
I’m not saying go ahead and jump your friend’s ex right now.
It all comes down to how your friend feels about it. Remember, it’s a tricky situation and if you don’t do your homework, you could lose your best friend. If it’s been a few years and your bestie has definitely moved on, give it a go. You were a good friend and kept your feelings to yourself for long enough.
As much as it sucked that someone I really liked didn’t feel the same, they’re both friends whom I love immensely, and I don’t own them.Pay close attention to when it is and isn’t okay to date her ex. They’re both happy dating other people and there’s no jealousy. Thinking about hooking up with them doesn't make you a bad person, but not until you really, One school of thought says you should close that door forever.“My friendships are more important than a new relationship,” says Sierra, a photographer in Los Angeles, who considers the deed to be absolutely off-limits.
What would the rules, roles, and boundaries look like? We're all adults, and at the end of the day, people can date who they want.