I was only able to relax around non-Jewish women, because I didn’t feel the same pressure; that’s how I met, and fell in love with, my wife.
It was the day I’d long hoped for, marrying a nice Jewish girl. In fact, by the time we’d started dating, I’d given up on Jewish women, and my dream of a perfect Jewish wedding, altogether. The intense pressure I felt to date and marry within the tribe damaged my perception of Jewish women and my ability to be myself around them.
’ This classic advice taught for centuries, encouraged men to get a woman’s number then wait wait three days to call, or make contact. There are two things going on that you should observe.
Being unreliable with his communication is a bad habit that has nothing to do with you.
If he’s not calling or texting because he’s not interested then don’t compromise your values to be with someone who isn’t investing in you.
It’s ok to give a man every chance in the world to do the right thing.
Before you take it personally, take a breath and think things through.
23, 2009, on the shores of Lake Winnipesaukee in New Hampshire. *** Soon after my bar mitzvah, just as I was discovering my interest in the opposite sex, I began to be bombarded with information about intermarriage—about how one in every two Jewish people would marry a non-Jew and how more than half of the children of those unions would not be raised Jewish.The objective is to maintain your sanity, and your emotional state.There is nothing more unattractive than an insecure woman projecting her insecurities on a man.This non-call reminds you that you’re invested in someone who isn’t as invested in you. What really matters is how you feel when you’re with him.It reminds you that you need someone else’s attention to feel worthy. Your value is not based on someone else’s attention. More importantly, you have to let it not bother you. You don’t need his call or attention to feel good about yourself, or the relationship. What matters is if this process feels good to you or not.