First of all, you may find that after half an hour, you dont actually like your date that much and you will still have two courses to get through! The most important thing is that it is fun, relaxed and gives you time to get to know your date.Or, you may have left the restaurant booking to your new date and theyve picked somewhere completely unsuitable for your taste (eg you go to a steak house and your date is vegetarian ) and your budget (if you intend going Dutch)! The restaurant may dim the lights and soften the music, which can then make it look like you're on a romantic date not an ideal setting if you are not sure that is what you want with your date! It should also be fairly short, so that you can make a swift exit if things dont go to plan!Generally, a daytime meeting takes the heat off so you have the perfect excuse to dash off for a later appointment if your date isnt going smoothly.The following are some ideas that will help you set the perfect stage for a first date .. It can last for just one coffee if its not going well or can last though lunch and afterwards when you go on somewhere else!Or read peoples’ emotions where pretty much no-one wears their heart on their sleeve?And how do you interact with a nation of shy people who always seem to have their head down and nose buried in a book/iphone game?
As a guy looking to meet Japanese girls who are looking to meet foreign guys though, your best bets are what are called “International Parties” and “Language Exchanges”.“International Parties” are parties organized specifically to bring foreigners and Japanese folk together and give everyone the opportunity to meet and interact in a safer environment than clubs or bars provide, and are much more relaxed events that are usually held on Friday or Saturday evenings, with some events earlier in the afternoon.
Many times it’s a lot more like a coffee date than a language exchange.
You can find a language exchange partner in the classified section of many of the local English language magazines and there are a few sites specifically for finding a language exchange partner, e.g. Also there are language exchange groups on meetup.com, which are usually like a cross between language exchange and international parties. Be careful, most the guys you meet here are married (or otherwise taken) and just looking for the “American” experience (if you know what I mean). Walk around Shibuya and make eye contact with men, trying to get Fun Cheapo Fact: In Japan it’s not uncommon for singles to spend hundreds of thousands of yen on “konkatsu” (婚活) or marriage hunting services!
The vast majority (upwards of 90%, I’d say) hardly have the opportunity to interact with non-Japanese unless they travel overseas.
At the same time, like folks in most other developed countries, Japanese people have been inundated with media from America and are avid travelers.
Then if you want it youll be planning your second date!