If more parents dared to teach their daughters (and sons) about healthy relationships and what it means to love yourself before trying to find and give love to a significant other, we wouldn’t need so much reassurance from a boy, and wouldn’t feel so helpless after every break-up.
If Mayura Iyer is a graduate of the University of Virginia and is presently pursuing a Master of Public Policy.
Black women have told me it's because I'm a sellout.
Because of the lack of dialogue on relationships in my household, I wasn’t able to have a dialogue on what mature, healthy relationships look and feel like.
Moreover, because the relationship had to be a secret, I felt like it was more important for me to stay out of trouble with my family and not say anything than to express how miserable I was feeling.
I would whisper in hushed tones under my blanket with the lights were off so that no one would suspect that I was up late.
When explaining why I had to go through so much trouble just to go on a date, or why I couldn’t just bring my boyfriend home for dinner to my non-South Asian friends, I was met with skepticism, judgment, and suspicion.
The first time I published an article on my relationships, I was a nervous wreck. Will I be able to show my face at another puja again?